Love is a force more formidable than any other. It is invisible – it cannot be seen or measured, yet it is powerful enough to transform you in a moment, and offer you more joy than any material possession could.
-Barbara de Angelis

Valentine’s Day- this year alone Americans will spend over 13 billion dollars in an effort to become closer to their love! As a day dedicated to love February 14th the perfect time to propose- 6 million people planned on proposing to their special someone in 2013, and 30% of people said that Valentine’s Day is their ideal day for a marriage proposal.  However, before you take that leap with your significant other some self-reflection is in order.  Contemplate your compatibility with the following questions and make sure you’re really meant to be!

Do They Make the Ordinary Extraordinary?

Does seeing your other half make the rest of your day amazing? Do they make a visit to the grocery store together your favorite part of the day instead of a mundane chore? With a first time marriage only having a 1 in 15 chance of surviving ten years, the importance of finding someone that makes every day special can’t be stressed enough!

Do You Have Similar Life Goals?

We’ve all heard the old saying “opposites attract”, but that advice may not be the best for a long-term relationship. While personality differences can make relationships more interesting, some differences may be too much for a healthy relationship to bear. For example- if you want to settle down and begin a family someday, but your significant other doesn’t like children, that’s a potential red flag. Even if you reach a compromise one of you will be giving up your dreams, which can lead to resentment. Before popping the question be sure that you’ve discussed your future plans for things like children and home ownership– a 15 minute conversation could save you both years of unhappiness!

Have They Passed Every Inspection?

Don’t forget to ask your family and friends about their opinions! Over the years they’ve probably formed a pretty clear opinion of your significant other (and have probably run a Background Check or two), and would welcome a chance to share it with you. Odds are that you’ll be interested in hearing it- Mothers, Fathers, and friends rank the highest in influence on a person’s choice of a spouse at 37%, 29%, and 28% respectively.

Do You Work Together As A Unit?

The most important skill in a marriage is the ability to work together as a team- in fact; a survey showed that the number one reason for divorce was a lack of communication. Before popping the question evaluate your teamwork with your partner. If you spend more time arguing about whose turn it is to do a chore instead of working together, or if one person is making all of the contributions to the relationship with no help from the other party it might be time to reconsider your marriage plans. On the other hand, if you work together towards a goal feeling more like one person than two you might have found the one to spend your days with!

 Just say I Do!